Last week, I wrote about the division of labor among families and Jen from Lords of The Manor said this in her comment:
Once again, I'm thanking my lucky stars that I ended up with such a great mother-in-law, and I can pretty much say the same thing for my husband. He got a great one too. Of course, I'm biased, but I know he agrees with me.
I married a fairly enlightened man, despite my MIL's best attempts to teach him to be a chauvinist pig.
Once again, I'm thanking my lucky stars that I ended up with such a great mother-in-law, and I can pretty much say the same thing for my husband. He got a great one too. Of course, I'm biased, but I know he agrees with me.
Anyway, from the very beginning, she accepted me as the woman her son had chosen and has treated me as if I were her own daughter. And she bends over backwards to not offend me. Not that I'm that easy to offend, but I appreciate the thought. My inlaws have been extremely generous with us and with our children, and my mother-in-law is always doing little things like picking up food she knows I like if she sees it on a good sale, and saving her coupons to pass along to me. And she's a fantastic bargain hunter. Last summer, she picked up an adorable tank and shorts set for Maureen for the grand total of $1.50.
I have many friends who don't get along with or don't like their mother-in-law, and I've heard some horror stories about pushy, nasty or just plain psychotic women. I'm glad it's not that way for me, because I think the constant ill feeling and biting my tongue would be exhausting and stressful.
How about you? Is your mother-in-law a fire breathing dragon or is she like a second mother? Or somewhere in between? And if you don't get along, how do you keep the peace?
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I'm pretty lucky too. My MIL is a really nice person. She also does little things like pick up outfits on sale and makes us quilts and cleans to help us out when she visits. She lives about 9 hours away. That said, I am always cautious around her. She gossips a lot. She isn't mean about it at all, but she does it, so I'm careful of what I tell her. Sometimes I do feel a little animosity toward her. I think it's just me, though. Honestly I don't know why I feel that way. All in all, I think I lucked out!
Amen about Joe Francis! He'll probably have a bunch of sons though. Jerk.
She is difficult to get along with, not many people get along with her.
I deal with it by only having to see her twice a year, Christmas and Easter.
~Renae~
I love my MIL. She is wonderful, and a saint and the best baby sitter that a working mom could ask for.
BUT...she could have done a little less for her children and then maybe my husband might do a little more without prodding....maybe.
My MIL is lovely and she loves me to death and would give me the shirt off her back. I am very lucky, especially since I failed in the "produce an heir" department.
My MIL is a saint--seriously. I love her to pieces. Even when I beg her for her opinion on something, she defers until the decision is made...it can be frustrating, but I appreciate that she lets us figure out our stuff for ourselves.
Kevin, however, got the MIL you see on TV/hear about. Don't get me wrong, my mom's great--she just forgets that she's not the boss of us LOL.
I can't say enough good things about my MIL--so much so, Kevin makes jokes about his mom loving me more than she loves him.
I'm very fortunate, too. My MIL is a very sweet lady.
My MIL is great too. My only regret is that they moved to North Carolina so we don't see her very often.
My MIL is fantastic! A saint, to say the least. She has been our day care for the past 5 years with one, the other or both of the kids. She is self less, god fearing, best grandmother EVER! She rocks and I consider myself very fortunate.
oooh! I won comment of the week!
There's not a lot more to say. :)
the way i have gotten along with my MIL is to move far away. she rarely visits or calls. the only problem with that is that she judges super quick on things she knows nothing about because she isn't around. i agree with whoever said something about if the MIL had done less and had taught her kids to do more.....i know how you feel. so, neither one of us likes each others mother. it makes living far away from both of them a perfect situation for us.
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